From Wound to Wound: Understanding the Perpetrators Behind Bullying Behaviour

Once the term bullying comes up, the first words to come to mind are those of the ‘victims’ who suffered the violence, tear and the trauma whenever they recollect minority. However, it is hardly ever the case that we wonder what urges a bully to be a bully. Who were they and what sought them to perform such acts. In this case, although the dynamics of bullying are much more complex in the society, the bully is often portrayed as a character with many hidden scars.

Research has shown that many bullies come from hard backgrounds. Problems in the family, such as divorce or loss of a parent, and poor communication between parents and children create a big gap in how they develop as people. In this kind of environment, bullying is not just a way to express feelings but also a way to gain control when they feel lost in their everyday lives (Hamzah, Manafe, Et Al., 2023)

In this article, we will try to understand how bullies see the world, not to excuse what they do, but to take a look at the other side of the story. So what are the factors that cause bullies to do this?

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1. Family Factors

Often the perpetrators of bullying come from families that are not intact, families that are not harmonious, and children who lack parental attention. Meanwhile, children who are victims of bullying are those who really get attention from their parents, spend a lot of time with family and foster communication between parents and children. As a result, this different upbringing often creates emotional imbalance and envy, which then triggers aggressive behavior towards children who look happier or more accepted in their environment.

2. Peer Factors

Within the scope of friendship, sometimes there are friends who bring positive influences and some who bring negative influences. In this case, positive friends are more likely to be the victim's friends, while more negative friends tend to be the perpetrator's friends. Some children sometimes bully just to show their peers that they are accepted in the group, even though they feel uncomfortable.

3. Past Experience Factor

Children who have been victims of bullying in the past often repeat the behavior towards others. This can be a form of venting the pain they have experienced, as well as an attempt to regain a lost sense of control.

4. Low Self Esteem Factor

Bullies often have low self-esteem. They may feel the need to show power or dominance to cover up their own insecurities. By bullying, they seek to gain recognition and status among peers

5. Lack of Empathy Factor

Lack of understanding of the emotional impact of their actions on others is also an important factor. Individuals who lack empathy may not realize that their behavior is hurting others, so they are more likely to commit acts of bullying.

Understanding the factors that influence bullying behavior is an important step towards addressing the issue as a whole. Bullying is not just about the victims and the pain they experience, but also about understanding the perpetrators, the wounds they carry, and how they try to deal with the world. With the right approach, whether through education, family support, or counseling, we can create a more empathetic and inclusive environment, where every individual feels heard, valued, and supported to grow into a better person.